a little bit. Attachment and some known difficulties that children face in trusting, letting someone else have control, etc. are learnings in the past couple of years. I always wondered if there’s anything we’re doing that actually addresses this…will that trust void ever be filled up? And how would we know if it was even going in the right direction?
I think I might have an answer. Or am going to take this as one answer for today. Remember ‘now’?
Was at a neighbour’s yesterday after going out to call son to come in after play. He wanted to finish up the last 2 overs, so stepped into her place to plan something we were thinking of. With the mosquies to worry about, I was chatting inside her foyer, door closed.
Son has walked past, not knowing I hadn’t gone back home. He had gone home, rung the bell, got concerned when no one answered – Loopy answered him but couldn’t obviously open the door. I heard him coming down and ran out. And he says,”I know you won’t leave me and go, so I thought you were hurt and couldn’t open the door. Then I thought I could go to M aunty’s and wait for you there and call….”
He had me at ‘I know you won’t leave me and go’ – this has been a recurrent theme in our household for years now. He was very young when he articulated that he was scared that we would leave him and go. Even walking down the stairs is easier for him if we are behind him versus before him. A teeny detail that I would never have thought about.
So how do we know we’re heading in the right direction? The kids shall tell us.
Off to bask in plants at Lal Bagh’s bi-annual plant sale. Walking there on air! 
